We’ve all been in a relationship that was bad for us, and when it ended, we felt a relief. But unfortunately, it happens that a bad relationship lasts, because there is no courage to break up! And the harder it is as we get older. Every relationship goes through some difficult times, but it is important to distinguish a bad period from the toxic impact of the relationship to us.
Partners like this have more serious problems in their behaviour, they subtly humiliate others, manipulate them, and make them feel guilty for something they didn’t do. People who have been a long time with such partners often become depressed and have completely ruined self-esteem and belief in themselves.
I bring you some of the main features of the behaviour and the personality trait of such partners. If you recognise only three of the features listed in your partner, there is a very high risk that you will be emotionally and perhaps physically injured if you stay in such a relationship.
Intentional Violence
Potentially ‘harmful’ partners tend to deliberately hurt their partners. Whether they break some dear subject of yours, take you roughly or even hit you, they do so with the intention of hurting or punishing you. Doing this to your partner only once is a sufficient sign of alert.
Quick attachment and expression of love
Such people have very shallow emotions and they quickly connect with other people. So they will quickly say those three words what can be attractive. They will plan a common future in just three weeks of relationship and swear to an eternal love and connection. But as quickly these emotions comes, as quickly they goes, so it’s important not to be fooled. Normal people need some time to develop such enthusiasm because they are aware of the risks associated with it.
Frightening temperament
Such partners often have aggressive acts, they are driving aggressively when they are angry and little things can drive them crazy. If you have a great fear of their reaction to anything, then this is not a healthy bond.
Destroying partner’s self-esteem
They constantly let us know that we are doing something wrong, correct our mistakes and we have the impression that they are constantly watching us. They let us know that we are not smart, good enough, and that way they destroy our self-esteem in order to blame us later for our dissatisfaction with them.
Separation from friends
These people mission is to distance us from friends who support us and our family. They do this by talking ugly things about them, how they don’t deserve us, that they treat us badly, how someone close to us is hitting on them. They do all this to separate us from people who could support us in the future in our negative experience of such partners.
Changing from bad to good
When such partners are treating us badly and intentionally harm us, then they apologize and become very nice, gentle and careful. In this way, we start to believe how we can fix them and we keep giving them another chance.
Partner is always guilty, they never
They always blame the other side for everything. Even for their bad behaviour, aggression and lies, they blame their partner and make them feel bad and to accept this guilt as their own.
Panic about break up
When they hear the words “break up”, they begin to beg, to cry, they promise to change, threat with suicide, and dramatize. They offer various deals only to stay with their partner. But in case that the break up was their idea, then they do it very cold and in second without sympathy.
Paranoia and control
Such partners are characterized by constant verification of the person they are in relationship with. He will constantly call you, questioning a billion questions about where are you and with whom. They can even track you and then examine the details to catch you in a possible lie. They are beginning to tell us what to wear, how to behave, what music to listen to, and they can forbid us to socialize with some people.
If you do not feel safe and comfortable in your relationship, then something is definitely wrong. Choosing a partner for a lifetime, a husband, a father of your children is a very serious decision that we need to be sure of. We should not be afraid of loneliness and the age we have. In fact, the most important relationship is the one with yourself, and then by respecting yourself you will find someone who will respect you! And remember, family is always on your side.
